It’s important of focus on who you are becoming – not who you are or who you’ve been. We all know this, but that’s not as easy as it sounds, right?
Here’s a “mind hack” I like to use to help me focus on who I am becoming instead of the present or past. It’s two simple words:
These two words can completely transform your life by changing your view of yourself from who you are or who you’ve been to who you are becoming and who you have the potential to become.
Here’s how it works:
Whenever you reply to a question about a skill you haven’t learned perfectly or a goal you haven’t accomplished, whether that question is asked by another person or by that doubting voice in your own mind, you need to answer by saying, “not yet,” instead of “no.”
For example, if someone asked if you had closed your first deal, instead of saying “no, I haven’t,” which is a very negative answer, you would say, “Not yet, but I’m almost there.”
That answer allows room for reality and possibility. It means that you haven’t succeeded yet, but that you are focusing on your future success.
Here’s a quote to go along with this “mind hack”. It’s by Matthias Alexander, a very successful Australian actor and innovator in the 19th century:
“People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”
Think about that for a minute and then decide to eliminate “no” from your vocabulary and replace it with “Not yet.”