We worry about problems, but worry is itself a problem. It inhibits clear thinking, it drains us of energy, it upsets our sleep and our digestion. It can make us irritable, bitter, regretful, pessimistic, depressed... What a price to pay for something that serves no useful function.
The truth is that we are our own worst enemy and many of our troubles are inside our head. We put the stamp of who we are on every perception. We see the world from the viewpoint of ourselves and in doing so our emotions and fears blur our vision.
All of us who have worried have become experts in it over the years. But worry itself is cunning, it is a distorting lens which hides from us the lessons it is teaching. It causes us to see an opportunity as a risk and a challenge as a problem.
The irony is that we don't even make an effort to eliminate it, but just listen to that same old tune of hopelessness and gloom. But by establishing a coping dialogue we can diminish and dispel the tedious repetitiveness of worry. Take time out every day to give yourself a pep talk. Be upbeat, confident, determined. Simply tell yourself with as much conviction as you can muster that you are going to take deliberate action to achieve what you can and refuse to be troubled by circumstances that are beyond your control.
Below are some tips on how to control your worrying. I know from experience that this is not an easy thing to do, but with a little patience and perseverance, you’ll soon be able to control your worrying instead of it controlling you!
1. Think about what is worrying you, and ask yourself what possible action you can take to alleviate the problem. Then take that action immediately.
2. To bring harmony into your life is to accept that some things are quite beyond our control. As the saying goes 'Change what you can change and accept what you can't'.
3. Worry thrives on inactivity and lack of choice, it lies coiled in quiet places. So, launch yourself into a busy routine of work and leisure, by keeping your mind occupied on other things will give it less time to worry.
4. Worry also thrives on delay and procrastination, so take action against anything that worries you, put the same energy into solving problems as worrying about them and sufferance will soon be a thing of the past. When you have taken all possible action then remember to let go of the problem.
5. Failure is an attitude, a state of mind. It is not reality. Cultivate a positive attitude and affirm to yourself your intention to succeed.
At the end of the day… the world isn't what we see, but what we think we see. And the way we see it determines the degree of happiness we enjoy each day. So, follow these steps above and start looking at life more positively, this isn't always easy to do but by forcing your mind to think positively it will eventually become a habit. Now go out there and live a worry-free life!