Conversations with my 6-year-old daughter, Titi are almost always amazing and inspiring.
Every morning, she starts her day with something like,
"Mummy, I had the strangest dream!" I encourage her to go on. "I dreamt that I built an amusement park called 'Titi HappyLand' and all my friends came there...."
She goes on. "They paid 10 pence to get on a ride and they were all happy!"
My 10-year-old son interjects at this point,
"Titi, 10 pence is not enough to charge people!" I smile, grateful that it isn't me breaking the news to her. He continues to give her executive advice, "Titi HappyLand will close down very quickly at that price, Titi."
Titi frowns, clearly confused.
She makes a funny face and a thinking sound as she drums her fingers on her lips. Her eyes are staring up at the ceiling.
"Ten POUNDS then, " she announces, finger now up in the air emphasizing the eureka moment with the word "pounds".
As I listen to this and other inspiring ideas my children often throw around, I wonder at what point their belief and confidence will become cornered by the world. When will society tell them it is too hard to build an amusement park and call it 'Titi HappyLand'?
When is it that we start to doubt our capabilities and believe in our incompetence more than we believe in our capabilities? I wonder.
The truth is, confidence wanes when we allow people or society tell us what we can and cannot do. We have people in our lives that laugh at our dreams and undermine any changes we try to make. We become cynical about real change and progress, betting that "it won't last" or "it won't work". Many times, we are afraid that we will fail or that we will not be accepted as we are. The discouraging words we accept into our hearts stops us dead on the track leading to our dreams. Before long, we become people who say negative words to others, doubting anyone can do that amazing thing they want to try.
I fell into the same trap of doubt but in the last few months, I have revisited my dreams. I can do stuff! I just needed to stay still and listen to myself. I was afraid and uneasy with the uncertainty but now I have a glimpse of what could be. I haven't gained any new knowledge or skill. I have simply peered into the world of my dreams and I now have the nerve to believe I can make my dreams come true. It doesn't mean I will elude failure. I may fail at first but you can bet that I will keep trying to succeed.
What would you do if you had nothing to fear? What if you were guaranteed success? Would you follow your dreams?
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