What would you say in only THREE words?
Happy to summarize or report on any trends I see.
Pace. Patience. Breathe.
Peace. Health. Slow.
Sorry, Jo-Ann, I have two entries and they go hand-in-glove:
Let it go.
Be here now.
Let it go! You know frozen style
Don't get PhD.
Oh come on
To go into O&G, it's true. I'm not saying it wasn't a great experience and I did not learn a lot, but for everything I put into getting it, I am not sure I have gotten as much out. Talk to me in a few months, I may feel differently.
So that picture on your profile is just there for scenery?... has nothing to do with your passion??
You'll feel differently when you are out of your valley.
My self pity party last week was partly due to being turned down for a job because I am "not fully committed to geology." I am over it. They are not worth my time and energy, and are WRONG. I also do not want to work for a company who would think such a thing of me.
Kristy. I swear the right role is coming. Sometimes you have to go thru a few duds before you get the right one. It's like dating :).
Proud of you for being so open and real here. I think there are a number of folks who are going through this and need to know it's okay and a part of the journey.
We will have to have a party for all of you newly deployed!
Sounds like you also dismissed a company that you don't need to waste your time on. Better now than six months into the job. Any more committed and they want your life. Do you know the story of the pig and the chicken? I am not making light of your situation.
You're a talented and committed lady. Breath. Stay focused on your goal. Stuff like this truly makes you stronger.
I always tell my candidates that it has to be the right fit and that means it has to feel right. Jo-Ann Paul is absolutely right that it is better now. As a recruiter I have talked to my candidates about situations similar (where things are just not right after an interview) and ask them to reflect on what their perfect job would look like. Then I ask them is this the perfect job (and typically the answer is no). I then know it is not a fit for my client or the candidate. If you could imagine yourself in a job in six months and you see yourself happy than it is probably the right role.
As Katie Mehnert stated this is like dating so I am so glad to hear you are over the situation! It has nothing to do with you. You are perfect. They were not perfect for you.
I am perfectly fine with a response of "it is not a good fit." I took offense to their response. I couldn't understand what happened in the interview to have made them think such a thing, especially since we talked geology for a good portion.
I will say that I have clients that don't know how to say we found someone who we are hiring or as you mentioned it is not a good fit for this position. It is like breaking up with someone. One tries to find the answer that they think will be the least pain and may not even be true. Unfortunately they don't think about the outcome or how the person receiving the information will take it. In other words, from my 20 plus years in recruitment, I don't think anything happened in your interview (just hearing it from the outside perspective). I think they really liked you and didn't want to upset you (because they have an alternative plan for this position), but they did just the opposite. That is what I was indicating by the fact that it is them. I know it sounds strange but I have seen this happen before, unfortunately. That may be more than you were asking for, but I wanted to share my thoughts.
Companies with obtuse people who don't know how to give a straight response don't need you, my friend. I cannot wait for when you post about how you got the BEST kick*** job and its because we all told you so (and you told yourself so).
You've inspired my next Ex post by the way - it might actually SHOCK all of you but I'm going to share about a role I didnt get at Shell. And you know I have nothing but glowing thing to say about my former employer.
Can't wait to see the post....not all people see your full potential and no failures just an opportunity and additional motivation....
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Kristy don't make me come to Denver and smack you. Surely you're not at AAPG because you don't appreciate that phD! I'm trying to connect w This guy Cy who had that Russia project. He's been very hard to connect with. Keep you posted as soon as I find out
No need to come to Denver, unless you want my cold.
I will post about my trip when I get back as I have not been able to due to bad internet connections.
And I respect your views too. It's frustrating.
Kristy Whitaker I respect you and your opinions (period!).
If I may .... a Ph.D in Geoscience is impressive. I am sure it was a major sacrifice; and, this tells me you are someone who is very intelligent and has tenacity, to stay through the rigors of any Ph.D program. Your high academic achievement is something that no one can take away from you. The industry you're in is tough, particularly for women, but you are a role model for young women, on what they can also achieve, as you soon enough will be opening doors for others behind you!
University of Iowa
2004 – 2008
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The fruits here are not low hanging and take time to mature but boy, sorry I meant girl, when they come in there will be a bountiful harvest!
So proud of your accomplishments! This too shall pass....( you're just in transition).
This was so beautiful Jo-Ann.
Thank you isn't quite enough, but THANK YOU Jo-Ann Paul for the encouragement.
I did not mean for this to come off as I am not proud of my accomplishment. I AM! It has shaped me into the geologist and person I am today. My 20 y/o self would not become me if she did not go through the same experiences.
I should have said "you are smart." For me, the only reason I got my PhD was to prove to myself I could do it and was smart enough to do it. Needless to say, anyone reading this now knows, I did prove this to myself and more!
You are SMART (and now the world knows if there ever were a question) and you communicate clearly. And in our environment communication is key along with smarts.
I try not to focus on me when relating to someone, unless I think it could be helpful to the other person (s).
Confession time. I am married to a Ph.D (History). He scores in the SMART column. If I stop right here you can fill in the blanks.
And I remember the years when he was a full time student, and I was the only one working, and we had a new premature baby. He almost didn't get his first job cause the school didn't have money in the budget to pay him at his qualification level, but they decided to offer him the position anyway. Little did they know that the compensation was above what he was expecting in academia, even though he was at the time 'under paid'.
P.S I like that our community allows us to talk about what is on our minds. I know we started off with 3 words, but heck we get to write the book and can use as many words as we want to express ourselves.
P.S2 My husband was great in the classroom. But he is challenged with not making every conversation a lecture!
btw.. Thank you for being so authentic. We really don't struggle alone. I think those who are willing to show their vulnerability need to be applauded cause it takes a lot to do that. We benefit ultimately, not only in getting to a better place, but others learn through our journey and build their confidence. I've heard or read stories from Katie Mehnert that's helped me with decisions. Even though the challenges were different there is something about going through a difficult time and coming out that much better in the end, that is a big motivator....
See you never know who is watching you (or reading you) and learning.
Shoot then I'm not a comitted reservoir engineer. I don't have a PhD.
One hell of a conclusion. Hopefully you'll find some good companies at AAPG to interview with!
Enjoy this moment.
Let It Go (while belting out the Frozen song or the Randy Rogers Band version)
Since there were two references to the Frozen song -- Let It Go -- well curiosity got the better of me!
Though I could be at risk of being bounced by our dear Ally Ninjaneer!
Ally LOVES frozen. She's all good.
Enjoy life's journey!
Have no regrets.
- and link it to -
Always be kind
"Today's a gift" (technically four so I used an apostrophe to create a contraction
Here's another three letter one:
Love yourself always.
From 5 years of therapy:
do no harm
ready aim fire
stay on target
Take those chances
You hit it right on the head, Ebony!
Ebony. I smell a blog post! Do you want to share? :)
"Control your thoughts."
Everything begins with a thought. Everything.
Words begin with thoughts. Creations begin with a thought; People even begin with a thought ("my, she/he's attractive").
Our lives are what we think about....thoughts are our focus.... what we focus on becomes what we act on...and what we act on is what is accomplished. If we get our thought life under control, thinking about the right things, the rest naturally follows. I was a new mother when I finally figured out that my mind could be directed at all times, even when I was doing the dishes. I didn't have to let it wander over other people's opinions, gossip, news, offenses, etc. I could think about what I chose to think about. It freed me to let go of offenses and to create inventions and stories.
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people"
- former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt
The second thing I would say would be "Act on Ideas".
Eventually someone else will come up with your idea if you don't act on it now. I thought of many inventions that I did not act on. For example, way before it was invented I created a prototype for the reverse, shatter-proof mirrors that attach to the back seat in a car (or seat belt) so you can see your baby from your rear view mirror while he/she is rear-facing. But I didn't act. Three years later with my second child, I saw the first one in the store.
“You may delay, but time will not.”
― Benjamin Franklin
I'm glad you didn't stop at three words. I enjoyed reading this perspective. And I need to process it more though I believe what you say is true.
I am so guilty of letting my thoughts stay too long around negative things said.
Thank you for the post.
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